Anger Management was a really bad Adam Sandler/Jack Nicholson movie, wasn’t it? If you don’t remember it, consider yourself lucky.
People get mad and there are numerous reasons why. There is no disputing that.
- Being teased or bullied
- The inability and resulting frustration as to understanding why something isn’t working.
- Mo Money, Mo Problems
- Someone has offended you
- You have been wrongfully blamed for something
If you find yourself mad as the Hulk at dinner time, remember to not take it out on anybody. Nobody deserves it.
How does The Hulk control his anger?
- Exercise. It will allow you to focus your energy all-the-while losing weight and building muscle
- Take a moment to ‘cool’ off. Count to 10, take some deep breaths and forget about whatever has you so upset.
- Feed your appetite. It is tough being around someone who is ‘Hangry’.
- Whatever you find therapeutic, do it. Sing, dance, draw, play video games, read a comic, or whatever it is, just do it.
- Write your thoughts down. Don’t internalize them. Getting them out is half the battle. Never keep it bottled up inside.
And if you don’t
Repressed anger can become destructive. Destructive to not only you but those around you. If you have trouble releasing your anger in a non-destructive manner, seek help. Personally, I don’t care if it is through a counselor, psychiatrist or your neighbor, just seek it out.
And if you can’t afford any of the above, sell your left arm.
By seeking help, you have subconsciously shown yourself that you won’t let your anger control you anymore.
My own demons
8 years ago I battled my own anger issues. I pushed everyone that I knew away (including my now business partner on this site, Joel) because I didn’t think I needed their help.
Never once did it dawn on me that I had anger issues.
Who were they to tell me that?
It all changed when I took it upon myself to have a long, hard look in the mirror. I didn’t like what I saw. I had become the very person I vowed not to become.
I realized that I was angry. Not just angry on a personal level, but on a professional level as well.
I caused so many people, myself included, unwanted pain.
I reached out to a counselor and through many sessions, I was able to refocus my anger into something much more positive; comics. Little did I know, but the refocusing would serve me well.
I learned that I was one of those people who kept my thoughts to myself. Not anymore. I have come to terms with saying or speaking what is on my mind and when it is there. Most importantly, I have learned that I am not alone.
I’ll leave you with this:
“Explain your anger, don’t express it, and you will immediately open the door to solutions instead of arguments.”